How to avoid dead-end daters online

How to avoid dead-end daters online - When it comes to internet dating not everybody listed on an online dating site will be 100 per cent honest with their profiles and opinions. Here are a few tips to reading between the lines.

Online dating: how to sort the rough diamonds from the smooth criminals

That's not to say no-one can be trusted online, but it's worth being prepared to .

Some online daters may use harmless hidden messages such as ‘I am of slim, athletic build’, when they really mean they are portly and haven’t hit the gym since 1976. Stating that you are ‘curvy’ when really you are obese is another clanger: people can see your profile picture, and that on its own tells a story. However, the biggest mistakes are along the lines of stating you are single with no dependants, when really you have a wife and three children at home.

Of course, this works both ways. You should be careful with your own profile - listing yourself as "fun-loving" or "surprisingly single" may not always be a good idea, as readers can misinterpret them. They may think that you are saying you are for a one-night stand, or suggesting that you have not yet been snapped up, which can be seen as arrogant.

Someone stating that they "can’t believe I am doing this" or "ready to move on" may mean that they seem to be slightly embarrassed by internet dating and worried their peers might find out, or that they aren’t really ready to move on. If the former, it could mean that if you went on to start a relationship with them they would forever be worried about you mentioning how you met, and if the latter it may mean they haven't over an ex.

That said, most people who choose to internet date are actually looking for love, so don’t worry, there is someone out there for everyone, and they may just be waiting a click away. ( telegraph.co.uk )

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Australian Bureaucrats Find A Friend in Facebook

Australian Bureaucrats Find A Friend in Facebook. Local government officials in Australia were struggling in their attempts to find youngsters for a well-meaning survey — until it went viral on Facebook. The survey on how to crack down on drunk troublemakers surged from fewer than 1,000 respondents to more than 15,000 after campaigners posted it on the popular social networking site.

An Egyptian woman previews the Facebook web page showing the picture of an alleged Egyptian victim of torture, Khaled Said, in Cairo, on June 14, 2010, who was reportedly brutally tortured to death by the police in the port city of Alexandria. Egypts state prosecutor said on June 23, 2010, that a new autopsy confirmed that an alleged victim of police brutality had in fact died of to asphyxia after swallowing a bag of narcotics

“It appears that (Facebook) was a huge catalyst for this age group to respond,” Queensland liquor licensing minister Peter Lawlor told the Brisbane Times newspaper.

“If you’re looking at people like me, that obviously wouldn’t work as effectively, but I think for that age group it is positive. This is the way communications are heading,” he said.

Respondents to the online survey, who were mostly aged under 25, backed government moves to make entertainment precincts safer but overwhelmingly opposed earlier closing times. ( AFP )

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The Ultimate Groomsman Guide

The Ultimate Groomsman Guide. Baffled by your groomsman duties? Here's an impossible-to-mess-up cheat sheet that tells you what to do (and what not to do) when.

Remember Rick Fox, the old Lakers swingman? He didn't do much. Sure, he played okay defense and swished a three here and there. But he filled his role well. He knew how to not screw up, how to avoid turnovers and how to ride the coattails of other players — so much that he won three championships. As a groomsman, you are Rick Fox. It's an easy gig. Don't blow it.

The Engagement Party

• Duty #1: Go pick up the celebratory cigars (or scotch, or whatever) — because this is just the beginning of your life as a groomsman.
• Duty #2: Answer one of the maid of honor's 481 crazy, ranting emails about whether or not to go with "plum" or "melon" colored champagne flutes for the couple's engagement gift you're all supposed to pitch in for (what's with women and naming colors after foods anyway?).
• Duty #3: Arrive early. Chances are, the couple's parents are throwing this shindig, but they might want you for manual labor — like picking up ice, arranging chairs or setting up the bar.
• Duty #4: Meet the bridesmaids. Flirt. Assign dibs. Do not, however, hook up. Yet. Why? The magical thing about wedding hook-ups is that they're short, festive and camouflaged by the boozy glow of dancing and champagne. There's a reason Wedding Crashers wasn't Thanksgiving Crashers or Dinner-With-Her-Parents Crashers. Remember: You're going to see this girl again — so save it for the big dance.
• Duty #5: Don't do anything stupid. Don't say anything stupid. Try to peel your eyes off the maid of honor's cleavage (yes, even if she's clearly showing it off). It's way too early in the game to put yourself on the injured list — which is exactly where you'll end up if you anger the bride-to-be. No, seriously, dude. She'll mess you up.

The Shower

• Duty #1: Wait to see if you're even invited. Here's the thing: Showers used to be — and still are, for the most part — female-only events. But in recent years, guys have started to get invited to these things like we have nothing else to do on a Sunday (it's called football, ladies). These sadistic gatherings are what've been dubbed "Jack and Jill" showers — and if you happened to get an invite, well, grab your man purse, get a manicure and prep with a viewing of 27 Dresses. This. Is. Your. Life. Now. Friend.
• Duty #2: Buy a gift. To do this, you'll have to find the couple's registry (if this is confusing, direct yourself to the maid of honor ASAP). Now, here's the key: Don't be cheap. Everyone invited to the shower will be looking at that exact same wedding web page and will have contemplated those exact same gifts. Therefore, they know exactly how much everyone ends up spending when the couple opens their presents. This includes you, so no skimping out (then you'll really never get any bridesmaid action).
• Duty #3: Pretend, just for the next few hours, to be interested in place settings, silver serving plates and linens. Ooh. Aah. Do not cringe. Do not roll your eyes. Do not look at your watch in five-second intervals. You will survive this.
• Duty #4: Have a backup plan. The truth is, the women won't really care if you're there or not once the punch is poured — you're just the mules waiting around to carry stuff. Save the groom from having to pose holding up a tablecloth or some other ridiculous household item and whisk him into the basement for a Wii session, even if that means bringing your own set from home (with extra remotes).
• Duty #5: Roll up your sleeves. Once the presents have been opened, it's your job to help carry the couple's new swag out to the car. Pack the back of the groom's SUV like you would a moving van — heavy boxes on the bottom, lighter ones on top. Really, you don't want to be responsible for breaking $1,500 in china.

The Bachelor Party

• Duty #1: Don't assume anything. Most guys think "bachelor party" and their minds go ballistic with images of strippers, lap dances and shooting champagne like they just won the World Series or something. The thing is, your groom just might not be so into that (he is sleeping with someone on the regular, you know) — in fact, a recent poll on ThePlunge.com found that 61 percent of grooms have zero (yes, zero) interest on celebrating their end of singlehood with a big ol' lap dance. So respect his boundaries.
• Duty #2: Out of all of your wedding tasks, this is the one thing you should plan far in advance (we're talking months). The best man should finalize the guest list (check with the groom), launch an email chain, find a good weekend and book early to score cheap flights. Working with a tight budget? No big deal. Head out on a road trip or go camping.
• Duty #3: Here's a crazy thought: You might want to remember some of this testosterone-induced weekend, so schedule a window of sobriety. Or at least try. The best bachelor parties have a one-two punch of drunken debauchery and vigorous, sweaty, outdoor activity. White-water rafting, skiing, football, hiking, hunting, four- wheeling, paintballing, sky diving — it all works. So grab a keg and get creative.
• Duty #4: Pony up cash for the groom's expenses. This is a major rule, so no skipping out and letting him pick up a dinner check or bar tab (oh, he'll try). Usually, everyone invited (as in, not just the groomsmen) chips in on this one, so you might even cut a break.
• Duty #5: These are all small details, so we're throwing them into one checklist: Forbid check-in calls with Schmoopy. In fact, while you're at it, forbid drunken check-in calls to anyone. If you're partying it up in Vegas, limit yourself to no more than four Swingers and The Hangover references. And, most importantly, don't let the groom cross the line — not even if he's so plastered he can't see it.

The Wedding

• Duty #1: Square away your tux. This means going to the rental place at least the day before (if not earlier, like four days before) and trying it on. Yeah, novel concept, but you'll be happy you slapped on that jacket when you realize it's three sizes too big and you look like Dopey.
• Duty #2: Distract the groom. Play hoops, watch a game, whatever — just avoid any questions like, "Are you sure about this, man?"
• Duty #3: Stand and walk. Really, that's it. Well, unless you're the best man, in which case you hold the rings too. But dogs have been trusted with this, so we think you can handle it.
• Duty #4: It's the reception, baby! If you're giving a toast, stick to this rule: Skewer the groom, flatter the bride. No exceptions.
• Duty #5: Be the lifeblood of the party. Dance, mingle, drink (without turning into "Frank the Tank"). Then zone in on that bridesmaid! ( msn.com )

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Love someone you've not met?

Love someone you've not met?. Is It possible to fall in love with a person without ever setting eyes on them?

Many of us insist that looks aren't important when it comes to true love, but does that mean we can find our soulmate in an internet chatroom or on the phone?

MY Sun users gathered on our woman forum to ask whether a voice can tell you all you need to know.

"Yes it can happen! I've been there," declares medusa93. "While others around me told me 'You will be disappointed if you ever met them', I took no notice.

Calling Mr Right ... phone-tastic

"It enabled us to explore each other's minds, rather than just then looking at each other physically."

LadyBug78 agrees, though she's still searching for her happy ending: "I met my ex on an internet forum for amateur writers and it was his writing I fell in love with first.

"It was disastrous relationship, but even now I read his stuff and it makes my heart skip a beat."

More 'Mr Write' than 'Mr Right'?

Real Love

"You can be totally attracted to someone by what they write and the sound of their voice... but you cannot surely call it love unless you are with them?" asks boabywan.

"You can have a crush, or lust for them, but not love" insists trashpalace. "True love comes from knowing someone and spending time with them in person."

Jandu, however, thinks words are windows to the soul:

"There have been many authors I've fallen in 'love' with over the years. A few I've even met. Generally, most have displayed the traits in person that comes across in their writing - an ability to connect with their readers' inner person."

Maybe, it's just too easy to add too many expectations onto a person you've never met. severin thinks so: "The problem is that sooner or later you start to imagine all kinds of other features of that unknown person.

"You have the feeling that you have fallen in love with someone completely different."

But isn't friendship the most important part of a relationship?

"I don't know about falling in love but I have a few very good friendships with people abroad who I "met" over the net," says Kaur1O1. "I have only ever shared instant messages, e-mails or telephone calls with them, but am as close to them as to any of my 'real life' friends."

There are those, of course, whose voices have people swooning at their feet: "I am in love with Alan Rickmans voice... I just know he will be all that I imagine him to be!

"Same goes for Sean Connery!

"Jeremy Irons! He has the most gorgeous voice..."

Blimey, phoebe81. It sounds like you're in love with half of Hollywood. And not the half who spend millions on their faces.

Is true love really blind? Can you love someone you've never set eyes on?

Leave a comment below to join the discussion ( thesun.co.uk )

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Years of Experience But No Degree

Years of Experience But No Degree. Seven Ways to Beat the Job Search Pitfall. After years on the job, you feel you've definitely platueaued and think it's time for a change. There's one catch: you don't have a college degree. You graduated from the University of Life and have plenty of professional experience to show for it, but no formal degree. Are you still marketable?

George C. found him in that very position last year. After several years as a designer and art director, he was laid off after budget cuts. He seemed to be the perfect fit for one particular employer, but the company required a degree for the position. Thus, he was passed over even though the hiring manager expressed regrets. A few months later and the hiring manager contacted him. The original, "degreed" candidate who was hired didn't work out and they wanted to extend the job to George on a trial basis. Today, he's a full-time employee with that company.

If you find yourself with tons of job experience but hitting the "no degree" dead end, there are some things you can do to accentuate the positive.

1. Let Your Experience Do the Talking

Make sure you highlight your professional accomplishments, technical skills, results and industry knowledge on your résumé. These all help to demonstrate your expertise in your field. Also, try calling attention to any leadership positions you've held, including those with community, volunteer or military organizations, suggests career counselor Susan Guarneri.

2. Articulate Association Activity

Take advantage of career development offerings through your industry association and become active in the organization. "Go to local chapter meetings and join high visibility committees, such as membership, community outreach and publications," Guarneri advises. Not only will this give you additional skills and experience, it will help you make a name for yourself in your field, further enhancing your qualifications.

3. Include Glowing References

Include references from respected colleagues or high ranking industry professionals. These letters of recommendation will speak volumes about your personal character and professional standing. Don't wait for the employer to contact you, but include them in your initial application.

4. Show Alternative Learning

Guarneri stresses it's important to show that you are interested in professional development and continued learning. List any certification programs and professional seminars you have completed. These additional credentials demonstrate your intent to keep your knowledge and skills up-to-date.

5. Apply Experience to a Degree

Search nearby colleges and universities for programs related to your line of work. Many colleges have programs that offer course credit with proof of proficiency in a particular area. It's a terrific way to gain college credit for real life work experience.

6. Earn a Degree

Higher education caters to working professionals in a number of ways. "A lot of traditional academic outlets have online components," Guarneri says. Online courses allow you to work around your schedule. Also look into fast-track programs for adults which allow you to complete a degree at an accelerated pace, usually with less classroom time. There's also the College Level Examination Program assessment to test out of specific courses, while still earning credit for those classes.

7. Show Education In Progress

If you are in the process of earning a degree, make sure you note that on your résumé, along with an estimated date of completion. ( msn.com )

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Does a College Degree Really Matter?

Does a College Degree Really Matter?. If college drop-outs like Bill Gates, Michael Dell, Steve Jobs, Larry Ellison and Richard Branson all run wildly successful enterprises, why is Melissa Gerry,* a mid-level manager with years of experience -- but no college degree -- having such a hard time finding a job?

Gerry joined a Fortune 100 company right out of high school starting out as a secretary and working her way up to marketing manager. Gerry performed well and was highly regarded. But when the company she worked for merged with a larger organization and moved its headquarters across the country, Gerry found herself looking for work for the first time in 15 years. Unfortunately, after months of searching, all she's been able to land are secretarial assignments. Why? Gerry believes it's because she didn't go to college.

While in the past, a college degree may have been optional, these days it seems to have become the minimum requirement for getting a good job and succeeding in the workforce.

Jeff Blass,* a 40 year old mid-level manager at a major food company, believes his lack of degree has stalled his advancement opportunities. "It didn't keep me from moving out of the mailroom," he says. "However, it seems to be holding me back now."

Nicole McMillen, executive director for Pre-Paid Legal Services, left college to get married and start a family and just recently entered the workforce. Ostensibly, McMillen would have had several strikes against her: no degree, no experience and a late start to boot! Yet on the contrary, McMillen says she had no trouble finding work -- or getting promoted.

"I suppose it depends on the type of position you're looking for," says McMillen, who represents her firm to large corporations and other employers. "For me, it's all been about performance and results."

No one disputes that a college degree opens doors.

"Most college degrees don't necessarily qualify the graduate for anything," says Charles Murray, co-author of "The Bell Curve," a book which explores the role of intelligence in American life. Murray contends that a college education need be no more important for most white collar professions as it is for, say, a basketball player. "Walk into Microsoft or Google with evidence that you're a brilliant hacker, and the job interviewer is not going to fret if you lack a college transcript," Murray says.

Murray predicts that providing an employer with evidence that you are good at something without the benefit of a college degree is become more acceptable as companies become more sophisticated about what it takes to do the job and what a college education actually provides.

For example: Terry Jones, CEO of Travelocity, was a history major at Denison University; Murry Gerber, President and CEO of Equitable Resources, was a geology major at Augustana College; Kay Krill, CEO of Ann Taylor, majored in psychology at Agnes Scott College, while Anne Sweeney, president of Disney-ABC Television Group was an education major at the University of Rochelle.

Then there are CEOs like Carly Fiorina (formerly of Hewlett Packard) who majored in medieval history and philosophy and Michael Eisner (formerly of Disney) who majored in English and never took a single business course.

Or as McMillen puts it, "I've found that knowing and believing in your abilities, presenting yourself in an articulate, polished manner, and making an effort to connect with others can overcome -- and even make the interviewer overlook -- that missing credential at the bottom of your resume." ( msn.com )

*Last names changed.

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Bad Credit Can Blacklist Job Seekers

Bad Credit Can Blacklist Job Seekers. Your credit rating. Most people only worry about it when they're applying for a mortgage or credit card. But did you know your bad credit rating could keep you from getting the job you want?

If you're applying for a high-security job or a position with heavy financial responsibilities, the way you have handled your personal finances can color your chances of being hired in these sensitive, accountable situations.

Why is it anyone's business if you have a little 'bounce' in your checks?

Credit rating and job performance -- what does one have to do with the other? Apparently, plenty. Clifton O'Neal at TransUnion credit reporting agency in Chicago notes: "Studies have shown a correlation between how people manage personal affairs and their job performance, especially if they're in charge of financial information."

It's a fact: Companies are going to snoop into your background.

Most employers routinely perform standard background checks on job candidates. But some companies are taking inspection of potential employees one step further to include their credit history.

At Exxon Mobil, everybody gets a background check, according to the company's media relations manager Mark Boudreaux. Credit checks, however, "are reserved for individuals who will have a job that has a significant financial component."

The criteria for credit reporting is echoed by Rod Griffin of Experian credit information firm. "Typically, when we see businesses requesting credit checks it's for money management positions, such as comptroller and financial planning. Or those who will be conducting security functions."

Damage control need not involve a deal with the devil.

So what can you do if your credit is less than stellar, but you have your eye on that accounting position? "It's important for the applicant to be upfront," O'Neal says. "Let them know, 'Here's what you'll find and here's how I'm correcting it.'"

There are legitimate reasons for a credit rating slump. Perhaps you went through a divorce or were a victim of identity theft. "That's why it's a good idea when you're applying for a position to pull a copy of your credit report so you know what's in it ahead of time and can verify that the information contained in the report is correct," O'Neal suggests.

Griffin agrees: "It is highly recommended for everyone to get a full credit report every year. You can get one free every 12 months. You should know what is in your credit report, regardless of whether you're applying for a job or not, so you can spot any irregularities or catch potential cases of identity theft."

You don't feel like the emperor in his "new clothes."

If the thought of strangers poking around in your personal affairs leaves you feeling a bit exposed, remember, you always can refuse such scrutiny. Not one bit of information will be given to anyone requesting it without your signed approval. "So as a job applicant, read through everything before you sign," O'Neal advises.

"Credit reporting agencies take out any info that could interfere with equal employment, such as age, gender, and spousal information. And all account numbers are omitted or truncated for security purposes," Griffin adds. ( msn.com )

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Six Hot Shots Who Made It

Success Without a College Degree?. Six Hot Shots Who Made It. Many think the only way to succeed is through education. While piling on the degrees can earn you piles of dough -- and debt -- it's not the only option.

Some of today's most successful people don't have a college degree. But what they lack in academic credentials, they make up for in tenacity, brains, guts and strong business sense.

Richard Branson

In 1970, Richard Branson founded Virgin as a mail order record retailer, and not long afterward he opened a record shop in London. Two years later, the first Virgin artist, Mike Oldfield, recorded "Tubular Bells." Since then many household names, including Ben Harper, Fatboy Slim, Perry Farrell, Gorillaz, Lenny Kravitz, Janet Jackson and The Rolling Stones have helped to make Virgin Music one of the top record companies in the world.

Branson sold the equity of Virgin Music Group -- record labels, music publishing and recording studios -- in 1992 in a $1 billion deal, but he remains chairman of Virgin Group, which today includes Virgin Atlantic, Books, Games, LifeCare, Limousines, Megastores and Hotels.

Barry Diller

Barry Diller started his career in the mail room of the William Morris Agency after dropping out of UCLA after one semester. He was hired by ABC in 1966 where he created the ABC Movie of the Week, pioneering the concept of the made-for-television movie.

At age 32, he became president of Paramount Pictures, which produced a string of successful television shows (Laverne and Shirley, Taxi, Cheers) and feature films (Saturday Night Fever, Raiders of the Lost Ark, Beverly Hills Cop) under his helm. From 1984 to 1992, he was chairman and CEO of Fox Studios and was responsible for creating the Fox Broadcasting Company. Today, Diller is the chairman of Expedia and the chairman and CEO of IAC/InterActiveCorp, which includes Citysearch, Evite, Home Shopping Network, Lending Tree, Match.com and Ticketmaster .

Matt Drudge

Pundit, blogger and radio personality Matt Drudge is best known as the proprietor of the Drudge Report Web site. "The only good grades I got in school were for current events," he has said of his education. Drudge opted out of college and floated among a number of odd jobs including convenience store clerk, book salesman and grocery store sales assistant.

In 1989, he moved to Los Angeles and took a job in the gift shop of CBS studios, eventually working his way up to manager. The inside scoop he learned while in this position was allegedly part of the inspiration for founding his gossip rag The Drudge Report. The tabloid made gained notoriety when it was the first to break the news of a relationship between White House intern Monica Lewinsky and President Bill Clinton in 1998.

Janus Friis

Named to Time Magazine's 2006 list of 100 most influential people, Janus Friis holds no formal education. He worked at the help desk of CyberCity, one of Denmark's first ISPs and later worked at Tele2, the leading alternative consumer oriented pan-European telecom operator. It was at Tele2 where Friis met Niklas Zennström, with whom he co-founded the file-sharing application KaZaA and Skype, the peer-to-peer telephony application. In early 2006, Friis and Zennström sold Skype to eBay for $2.6 billion.

Rachael Ray

Rachael Ray's career started at Macy's department store, first at the candy counter and then as the manager of the fresh foods department. Ray quickly followed with stints in gourmet markets and restaurants in New York. At gourmet food market Cowan & Lobel, she began a series of cooking classes -- 30 Minute Meals. Those classes became so popular that she was soon doing weekly segments for the evening news.

Today, Ray is an Emmy-winning television personality who hosts a nationally syndicated talk show and four different programs the Food Network, publishes her own magazine, and has written multiple cookbooks.

Jeff Valdez

Named one of AdAge's Marketing 50 in 2005, Jeff Valdez grew up the youngest of nine children in a housing project in Pueblo, Colorado. As a young adult, he moved through several jobs and ended up as a drummer with a lounge band called Wildfire. Valdez later returned to Colorado after about 10 years of touring and opened a comedy club where he did stand-up. In 1990, he threw his hat into the political ring and made a failed bid for mayor of Colorado Springs. But in 2004, he launched Si TV, the first all-English language network targeting a Hispanic audience.

Anna Wintour

Best identified by her trademark sunglasses and pageboy hairstyle, Anna Wintour is an icon of the fashion world. She reportedly attended North London Collegiate School, but never graduated. She started in 1970 working in the fashion department of Harpers and Queen in London. In 1976, she was named fashion editor of Harper's Bazaar, followed by a brief stint at New York Magazine, three years as creative director of American Vogue, and finally named editor of British Vogue in 1986.

In 1998, she became editor-in-chief of American Vogue. Wintour's work style is so notorious, the novel "The Devil Wears Prada" and its subsequent motion picture are said to be based on her. In recent years, she's focused on many philanthropic endeavors including raising more than $10 million for AIDS, putting Vogue's support behind women-owned businesses in Kabul, Afganistan, and promoting various post-9/11 campaigns. ( msn.com )

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Five Secrets to Working With a Recruiter

Five Secrets to Working With a Recruiter. As any professional who has ever been out of work knows, finding a job is no small feat. Locating positions of interest and convincing employers you are the one to hire appears simple. In reality, it can be unnerving and frustrating, particularly if the search has been a lengthy one. Enlisting the assistance of a specialized recruiter can ease some of the pressure and help you target your efforts to only the most promising opportunities.

1. Sometimes it is about who you know

Professional recruiters have deep networks of business contacts within a wide range of companies and industries. While you are diligently scouring newspaper and Internet ads, they can uncover leads and vacancies that have not been advertised or even announced, thus giving you an advantage over job seekers who rely solely on information that is posted in the public domain. Recruiters also can serve as career advisers.

For example, in Louisville, Ky., a recruiter with Robert Half International recently partnered with an information technology professional who, despite years of relevant industry experience, had been unable to generate any employment interviews of note. The recruiter helped the individual rewrite his résumé to better highlight the candidate's experience with servers and the .NET platform, leading to immediate interest from employers. In addition to working with you to refine your application materials, a skilled recruiting professional can offer guidance on everything from answering tough interview questions to negotiating the best compensation package to how to dress for your first day of work. They also can help you navigate career crossroads and explore new fields.

2. Not all recruiters are created equal

When selecting a recruiter, it's important that the individual is an expert in his or her field. For example, if you are hoping to find work as an accountant, someone who has experience in the accounting and finance field will be better able to understand your needs and the expectations of potential employers. Ask friends and colleagues for referrals. Also consider contacting a few recruiting professionals in your area to gauge the level of rapport you have with each. Above all, you must be comfortable with the person with whom you have partnered and confident that he or she has your best interests at heart. In addition, remember that you should receive a recruiter's assistance free of charge. These individuals are paid a fee by companies to locate qualified candidates, so view with suspicion any recruiter who asks you to pay for job-search services.

3. The more information, the better

When meeting with a recruiter for the first time, be open and honest about your background, experience and career aspirations. He or she needs to know as much about your professional life as possible to find the right position for you. Are you looking for a tax accountant role in a corporate or public setting? What are your salary requirements? Do you prefer working for a large or small firm? Are you willing to travel? The information you provide may prompt the recruiting professional to suggest promising positions or career paths that you had not previously considered. You also should disclose to your recruiter any aspects of your work history that may generate concern from prospective employers, such as a long period of unemployment or termination. The more upfront you are, the easier it will be for a recruiter to assist you.

4. Follow up, follow up, follow up

After each employment interview your recruiter arranges, call to let him or her know how the meeting went. Your feedback can provide information that can be leveraged in follow-up communication with the employer. This could pave the way to a second or final interview. By following up, you also may receive valuable insight into your interview skills and learn about any concerns expressed by the hiring manager. Throughout the relationship, be forthright in communicating any changes in your career needs or availability. If you're interviewing for other jobs that you've set up on your own, let your recruiting manager know. He or she may have contacts at the company and be able to help you secure the position.

5. Patience

Although using the services of a skilled recruiter can significantly improve your odds of locating employment, even the most successful recruiting professionals need time to find the perfect position for the job seekers they represent. So, don't get discouraged. Recruiters continually mine their sources for job leads and may suddenly discover an opportunity that is right for you. If you'd like a status update, don't be afraid to call your recruiter with questions. Checking in with him or her on a regular basis ensures both of you remain focused on the best opportunities for you. A skilled recruiting professional can help you find the right job faster and open doors to new opportunities. By researching firms and maintaining communication, you'll be in the best position to locate and secure your next position.( msn.com )

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Four Secrets to Always Having a Job

Four Secrets to Always Having a Job. Never before have Americans been as responsible for keeping themselves skilled and employable as they are today. I tell people to expect to have as many as nine different careers in their lifetime, with an average of three jobs in every one. In short, for those who don't keep a focused eye on their abilities to adapt and grow with the changing workplace, a day could come when it becomes tough to find a "good job."

How do some people always manage to be employed and on track for continued success? They follow the four secrets to staying employable.

1. Keep your definition of a "good job" reasonable.

As we progress professionally, we acquire skills and experiences that often afford us greater opportunities in terms of salary and benefits.The problem lies in making the assumption that once we are offered a larger compensation package, it becomes the starting benchmark for any job we take in the future. The result is the "golden handcuff effect" - a sense that we are held hostage by our current job because there's no place else to go.

Smart workers know each job opportunity provides criteria that must be weighed differently against our wants and needs. Staying employable means simplifying our list and planning for the day when we won't have the same level or type of perks. This keeps job options more plentiful and movement to new positions easier.

2. Use the "3x3x3 rule" to create and implement your own professional development strategy.

Forget about waiting for your annual review; smart workers take the review process into their own hands. Assess your professional strengths and weaknesses. By building a game plan to leverage the first and minimize the second, you can identify how you plan to stay employable. I encourage individuals to follow the "3x3x3 rule" for skill development:

• A. Choose three skills you want to enhance.
• B. Identify three ways in which you could learn and grow each skill.
• C. Articulate three examples of how you can demonstrate your enhanced skills in this area to your employer.

By taking professional development into your own hands, you remain focused and in control of your employability.

3. Be the "go-to" person for something employers need.

Like depositing into a retirement fund, employees use the early part of their careers to develop skills to accumulate professional wealth. Sadly, after a decade or so, some employees believe they've earned the right to live off of the interest accrued from their efforts. Midlife often brings about changes in how an employee wants to allocate his or her time (ie. wants more time with a spouse, family, home, hobby, etc.). Smart employees know this doesn't have to diminish the quality of the time they put into their careers. To stay employable, focus on being the "go-to" person for a particular problem, task or technique. Building subject-matter expertise in a specific area that's in demand within the workplace will create a personal insurance policy that ensures you'll always be the "go-to" employee who's in demand.

4. Create a board of advisers for your company of one.

Smart individuals don't do surgery on themselves, pull their own teeth or represent themselves in legal matters. They defer to professionals who have the training and expertise that gets the best results. Smart employees do the same with their careers. In an age where employees are in essence a company of one -- responsible for keeping the services they deliver in demand -- doesn't it make sense to seek the counsel of those who can help you make the best career decisions? Smart employees solicit the advice of individuals they think approach career success in a manner they admire. Whether it's a relative, co-worker, former manager or even a professional career coach, seeking advice from those who know more than you will give you the perspective needed to be proactive and successful at staying employable.

Career paths are full of twists and turns; they're rarely straightforward. To avoid roadblocks, use the four secrets outlined above and you'll be able to make course corrections that will help you stay employable. ( msn.com )

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Six Job Hunting Myths Debunked

Six Job Hunting Myths Debunked. Everyone wants to give job seekers advice, and while much of it is useful, some guidance may miss the mark. Because the employment market is constantly changing, ideas that once worked well may no longer be effective. This doesn't mean you have to second-guess everything you hear, but do be aware of common job-hunting myths, like the following:

Myth No. 1: You should keep your resume to one page; any longer, and hiring mangers won't read it.

Few employers are so rigid that they'll toss out your resume because it's more than a page long. What's more important is that the document is interesting to read, tailored specifically to the position you are applying for -- and perhaps most important -- error free. In fact, 84 percent of executives polled by Robert Half International said it takes just one or two typographical errors on a resume to remove a candidate from consideration for a job opening; 47 percent said a single typo can be the deciding factor. While a one-page resume is preferable for entry-level candidates, those with five or more years of experience may require an additional page to describe their work history and accomplishments. Keep in mind, however, you never want to lose a hiring manager's attention by providing irrelevant details.

Myth No. 2: It's pointless to request an interview with a company that isn't hiring.

Even if a company isn't planning to add staff anytime soon, chances are you can land an informational interview. Look to set up a meeting with someone -- preferably a hiring manager -- who can tell you more about the organization and provide answers to questions you can't find online or in the company's marketing materials, such as its short- and long-term business goals. Many employers will be willing to sit down with you if you show genuine interest. An informational interview probably won't result in a job offer, but you will build your professional network and, in the process, may learn of future opportunities with the firm.

Myth No. 3: If you've applied for a position and haven't heard back, it's safe to assume the position has been filled.

Just because a company hasn't contacted you doesn't mean they aren't interested. It's not uncommon for hiring managers to be so busy they delay contacting candidates for as long as two months after posting an employment ad. Don't let this discourage you; instead take action to see where you stand. An overwhelming 94 percent of executives surveyed by Robert Half International said candidates should contact hiring managers after submitting application materials; 82 percent of respondents recommend doing it -- whether by e-mail, a phone call or personalized letter -- within two weeks of submitting a resume.

Myth No. 4: The most-qualified candidates always get the job.

While employers want to hire professionals capable of doing the job -- and carefully compare candidates' education, skills and experience against the requirements of the position -- they also depend on intuition when making a decision. Forty-six percent of executives surveyed by Robert Half International said they rely heavily on instinct when making hiring decisions; another 49 percent follow their gut at least some of the time. The traits that make an employer intuitively want to hire someone often involve soft skills -- that is, your ability to get along with the rest of the team. So, if you're interested in a position for which you meet only the minimum requirements, don't immediately dismiss it. Your personality may put you on par with someone with more experience than you.

Myth No. 5: There's no room for salary negotiation in today's job market.

Demand for skilled professionals continues to outpace supply in a number of specialties, and candidates with industry experience and expertise often receive multiple offers. Researching how much those with similar qualifications in your area are being paid will help you choose the best opportunity and negotiate a reasonable rate. The U.S. Department of Labor's Occupational Outlook Handbook is an excellent resource, as are industry publications, such as Robert Half International's annual Salary Guide.

Myth No. 6: When times are tough, take the first job offer you get.

An extended job search can put pressure on you to accept any offer that comes your way, but do your best to avoid accepting a position that may cause more heartache than happiness. Tolerating a job you hate -- whether for a week or year -- can set you back professionally and take a toll on your well-being. You may have to accept a "less-than-perfect" role in certain situations, but don't feel guilty holding out for a position with maximum appeal if you have the financial means to do so. Tapping a variety of sources for advice during your job search often is a smart move. But, like any investigation, you may come across clues that are somewhat misleading. Recognizing common myths early on will make your job-hunting efforts far more effective and help you land the position you seek. ( msn.com )

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Seven Networking Myths

Seven Networking Myths. One of the most important career management skills you can develop is the ability to network. Unfortunately, for some, the thought of "working a room" or placing business cards into other people's hands can be downright intimidating. But networking doesn't require bold tactics to be effective. In fact, it's this perception -- and others -- that discourage many job seekers from networking in the first place.

If you let these myths deter you, you may miss out on making important professional contacts and, as a result, career advancement opportunities.

Following are some common perceptions about networking. How well can you separate fact from fiction?

It's "old school."

Fiction. To the contrary, there's clear evidence that networking is gaining popularity. Nearly half (48 percent) of professionals polled by Robert Half International said they're doing more professional networking now than three years ago, perhaps because workers know the vast majority of jobs are never advertised anywhere; instead they are filled through word of mouth.

You need to be an extrovert.

Fiction. You don't have to be especially gregarious or outgoing to make meaningful connections in your industry. If crowds make you uncomfortable, consider creating your own networking opportunities. Invite several of your friends or co-workers to lunch and request that they bring along two other contacts. A more intimate setting may help put you at ease. If you feel shy or flustered, ask questions to shift attention away from yourself. Since most people enjoy talking about themselves, you'll have no trouble keeping the discussion rolling.

Networking is time-consuming.

Fiction. Trade shows and meet-and-greet events aren't the only venues to forge new relationships. You can -- and should -- reach out to people while going about your normal routine -- waiting in line at the supermarket or pumping iron at the gym, for example. Don't miss the opportunity to make conversation with those you meet outside of professional settings; valuable contacts can come from any number of sources.

Only face-to-face interactions pay off.

Fiction. Virtual chat rooms and discussion lists are an excellent way to network with your peers and obtain specific information and advice from the comfort of your own home or office. Becoming a member of an online community, like Friendster or LinkedIn, also can lead to serendipitous -- yet useful -- connections. Just be sure to be polite in all of your interactions and offer useful information to your contacts.

Small talk is a turnoff.

Fiction. Many people cringe at the prospect of making small talk, but it's often the first step to getting a more meaningful conversation started. You don't have to limit yourself to topics like the weather or your alma mater. Ask potential contacts whether they've taken any interesting vacations or eaten at the new restaurant down the street -- anything you'd genuinely be interested in learning about. Also, prepare some stories of your own to share, such as a quirky news item you've come across or celebrity encounter you once had, in case your conversation partner is a bit bashful.

Your contacts will be annoyed if you ask for help.

Fiction. Asking people for information and advice is hardly bothersome, as long as you do so gracefully. In fact, 37 percent of workers polled by Robert Half International said the biggest mistake people make when networking is not asking for help. When soliciting assistance, make it easy for the other person. For instance, if you ask someone to serve as a professional reference, provide that person with a copy of your résumé and let him or her know when a potential employer might be calling.

It's just as important to give as it is to receive.

Fact. Consistently serving as a resource to others is the most effective way to forge long-term relationships. Offer to help whenever you can and always respond promptly to the requests you receive. Forwarding relevant news articles and information to your contacts is another way to build rapport and stay in touch. Many job seekers limit the effectiveness of their networking efforts by believing in myths more than themselves. Overcoming these misconceptions will help you make the most of your activities and develop a circle of long-lasting professional contacts.( msn.com )

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